I Know what you Mean
"I used to love messing with computers. I've been a computer geekette all my adult life (I'm in my 50's) until this year. ... the year that Gnome decided to change direction radically when they were soo near perfection with Gnome 2 - and this following the huge mistakes that KDE made when they decided to go for a major change of direction."
As I turned 50, I changed the /etc/apt/sources.list to stop pointing at "testing," and to point instead to the name of the testing branch (Etch). That way I got to experience some of the legendary Debian stability.
When KDE launched version 4, I was somewhat protected by Debian's release cycles. It gave me plenty of time to evaluate KDE 4 as it developed, and decide that while I liked the direction KDE was heading, I wanted something lighter weight.
I also run LTS versions of Mint and Ubuntu Not up to Debian's stability standards, but if you want a quick install, they work fine.
I just put Debian on a netbook. I used LXDE and controlled the wireless with Network-Manager. With just Lxterminal open, I use 75 meg. That's what Linux is about. I get to choose how to run my machines, and then stop worrying.
The Gnome leadership has always been somewhat arrogant, but I suspect version 3 will be OK in another year or so.