It is a fact of life that in any negotiation there will always be a stronger and a weaker party.
If both parties were equal then there would be no requirement for negotiation as both parties can just walk away on an equal footing.
Sadly in the majority of cases, upon failing to get exactly what they want, the weaker party generally resorts to claiming victimisation with suggestions of punishment, bullying, arrogance or calls for respect from the other party. It really is a last ditch strategy, an emotional response that means nothing in the real world. The fact that it is regularly called by the Brexiteers is just a reflection of how strategically clueless they are.
Reality is hard, the gap between what you want and what you get is wide, no amount of name calling will change that.
Negotiation relies on some form of leverage. When you haven't got anything the other party wants, which it can’t easily replace elsewhere, you are screwed.
We have three choices -
a. We accept the deal May is given.
b. We stop the process, try to salvage our dignity and resume trying to democratically influence the EU more towards the UK’s point of view.
c. We walk away, take the huge hit, stop whining like babies, and spend the next few decades being the bitch of multiple trading blocs while we try to set up favourable deals with them.
That is the way we can exercise our right to self determination….