Re: Not an apology
One site I visited fairly often to sort out problems. A remote job entry operator had a fairly boring job on a satellite site so would often chat to me. Eventually I asked her out for a date. She still tells me 40 years later that I wasn't her "type" - but that I was a good dinner companion while she waited for Mr Right. After a few frogs over many years a most unlikely prince did arrive for her.
As a 1970s feminist she insisted on paying for the occasional dinner - in proportion to our respective salaries. On which occasions she did the ordering - including relaying my order to the waiter. At the end of the meal there was often a moment's wavering hesitation before the waiter handed her the bill.