@joeaverage -- Re: @palpy
I think you pretty much hit the nail dead center except for one point. My tendency at one point if someone told me to "suck it up" wasn't, shall we say, gentle. I'm calmer now. Less traumatized.
The point I take issue with is that actually, people like what you mention shouldn't be in charge or even near a war-zone. They're the ones who toss lives away and do more harm to their own side. Patton to some degree, was an exception but not completely.