None of my Win 10 machines install updates automatically. There's an option in the settings (somewhere - it's 4am, and I'm not getting out of bed to go find it for you :p) to switch to notifying you about updates and asking you to schedule a time. (I just ignore that and can usually get away with not updating for a week or two.)
I don't get asked about Office either, but that's probably because I use it from time to time - mostly One Note for taking notes on my phone. (I use real office for real stuff when I need it).