Re: vain, manipulative, grandstanding
I think what we are talking about here is a sociopath. All thee adjectives are exactly how you would describe such a mentality. Given that sociopaths don't see any laws as pertaining to themselves, they are always a danger if their predilections head in the direction of harming other people. To want someone 'scared' in bed before you can get it up (not 'pretending to be scared' but actually frightened) and to have the sociopathic charm to get them in that bed, is someone I'd like the police to keep an eye on. However, in the Good Old Days that's just what they would do: 'keeping an eye on you, sunshine', which seems much more acceptable to the general population than orders.