why is everyone making a technical issue into a shadowy conspiracy to 'screw everyone'?
when 1/3 of my transit links are consumed by traffic from ONE location, it's time to change my relationship with that location. transit bandwidth is the most expensive to purchase.
and frankly, if your using that much of someone's stuff, it doesn't make sense to pay a third party for access to it.
nor is it efficient , or cost effective for anyone.
Netflix is bitching because they want the 'free peering' part of being a carrier, with out the 'manage traffic' part of being a carrier. If you want to consume a large chunk of someone's network, it's good net-manners to figure out the best way, technologically to make that happen, and then work out the money. thus it has always been with companies that understand and want the internet to thrive and grow.
netflix's clearly willing-full misunderstanding of 'why things work on the internet' seems to be caused by the fact that growing to the size they have, in the way they have simply doesn't scale, either technologically, nor from a business model perspective.
try shipping a few truckloads of concrete via post down a downtown city street, and tell me the city isn't going to come looking for you after your trucks spill concrete everywhere, put holes in the road from overloaded trucks, and generally make life difficult for everyone, including the person ordering the concrete!
those who think netflix is just trying to get what's owed them need to understand that going with budget providers at their cheapest rates, because it allows those middle men to bully edge heavy ISPs because of traffic mix, is bad for the network. it's bad for consumers, and bad for peering relationships. the network naturally routes around bullshit. the fact netflix has been presented with a solution that is the same solution everyone else uses, and they don't like it, is what's going on here.
it's not an attack on freedom, QoS, or anything else. it's just netflix complaining they have to move out of their parents basement, if they want to keep growing their mail order business.