everyone assume that "taking responsibility" for children means "locking them up"? That's even dumber than assuming that every bit of violence a child sees will make the commit violence:
"Or are we expecting parents to constantly keep up with the increasingly transparent line between the adult world and their child(ren)'s world, and monitor ever-more esoteric and incomprehensible sources of inappropriate material?"
Yes, we are. In return for the tax breaks, tolerance of faecal matter, tolerance of constant inane goo-ing and gushing, tolerance of noise pollution... and all the other things we non-breeders give to parents, Yes. Yes, yes yes I expect a hell of a lot from them.
I expect parents - who after all, constantly rabbit on about the joy and the greatness and how it fulfills their life and bla bla bla - to spend most of their time with their kids, educating them, shaping their attitudes and generally sacrificing their lives for them.
Rather than what most do, which is plod about with a tired expression from DVD player to Games Console to bed to school.
Should I not expect more than this?
A message to parents: if you find children confusing, incomprehensible, shocking or unnerving then... don't have one!
If you cannot keep tabs on your child, nor can you find some way to strike deals with them about behaviour and appropriate subject material... then you're not cut out for it, face it.
If you find it a massive chore to keep up with and understand the world of your kids then... hang out with people your own age who you do understand, and don't have children!
I for one am truly sick to death of the moral high ground that parents claim for "raising" their kids, when all they actually do is plonk them in front of a TV set, stuff meals into them and hand them off to babysitters/teachers/whoever.
Raising kids is unbelievably hard. But I don't respect a majority of parents I see around me because they're NOT raising their kids.
As far as I'm concerned yes, you should kiss your life goodbye for 20 years. And if you're not prepared to do that then:
DON'T EXPECT THE REST OF US TO DO IT FOR YOU.
Honestly, this world is ruined by people who marry cos they want a party, and then have kids because they need the attention.