Got the same feeling about Delphi.
So summing up you hate Java because you were "abused" as a child into programming Java and now see only bad Java software around you. Well, I don't share your opinion -at all- because quite frankly Java is one of the few languages I still enjoy working with (note: I'm not a professional developer).
Even though I fear that Oracle doesn't bring it much good (Java 6 immune, Java 7 vulnerable to the latest exploits? go figure) I can't bring myself to ditch it. Heck; even though I kinda enjoy C# I feel that it doesn't manage to give me the same kind of continuity. I've been using NetBeans since version 4.1 (released May 2005) and even though there have been NetBeans versions which I didn't like (and skipped) the community has /always/ been very open minded towards criticism. I reported my share of bugs, I also saw most of this share of bugs vanish. Right now I'm on the latest version of NetBeans (7.2) and needless to say; but I like it.
Then again; I also like using UML's for my more complex programs (my UML tool of choice being Visual Paradigm UML) so maybe I'm just a bit twisted ;-)
Still, I can relate to your story to a certain degree. That's why you won't see me "attack" your opinion in any way. When I first started learning a programming language we worked with Turbo Pascal 6. Later I managed to get my hands on Borland Pascal 7 through "obscure channels" and up until now I've always enjoyed the language and the way it was build up (Turbo Vision to build GUI's in DOS; it was awesome!).
But for some reason I just couldn't bring myself around to liking Delphi. I don't know if its caused by playing with an older (maybe not fully matured) version, the changes in the language or the way their IDE used to work; I hated it. Still do to some degree. And just like you I can openly admit that there is no sane reason; no argumentable comments as to why I think it sucks. Its just that I got so used to TP6 that it felt as if the language was forced into some twisted OO (GUI-approaching) construction where it didn't really fit too well.
I've been following its development a little bit, todays options look quite impressive, but when I look at the current versions I see the entry fee starting at E 200,- which only gets you a limited version. I can pick up a decent Java IDE fully for free, I can even use the VP UML tool free of charge (non-commercial use only, as such I got myself a Modeler license).
So; you're not alone, sort off ;-)