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A 38-year-old virgin has become the talk of the web in China this week after she set up a site devoted to her near four decades of abstinence - and urged the nation’s youth to join her in saying no to hanky-panky before marriage. Shanghai Daily reported that singleton Tu Shiyou from Hubei Province set up the “virginity website …

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  1. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    ParentPort

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      EASY...

      It's easy to abstain if you are ugly!

      Now that was way to controversial!

      1. Anonymous Coward
        Anonymous Coward

        Re: EASY...

        Downvoted by an ugly person already?

        1. Clare (web specialist)
          Thumb Down

          Re: Re: EASY...

          You should realize that beauty is only skin deep. It is men like you that have made it easy for me to abstain from sex with men for many years now. You might want to have a think about it.

          1. Grease Monkey Silver badge

            Re: Re: Re: EASY...

            Shirley the question that needs to be asked here is this:

            If she hasn't found the one after 38 years of trying, is she every going to find him?

          2. Scorchio!!
            FAIL

            Re: Re: Re: EASY...

            It is an unfortunate sight when women stereotype men. Generalising from the particular is not a successful method of determining the truth. Your anecdotal experience is merely that. You might want to have a think about it.

            1. Clare (web specialist)
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              @ Scorchio!!.

              Your accusation that I am stereotyping men makes me far angrier than the original stereotype. It is not a stereotype that would make me prefer my relationships with women it has been my consistent experience, and on top of that I have some good friends who are men. I work in a male dominated environment and every day consists or trying to prove that I am as good as them. I have no desire to carry on that struggle at home.

              How dare you accuse me of stereotyping when I was, validly objecting to a classic male stereotype. What do you mean anecdotal when this has been my experience? Every time I get involved it has been a total disappointment, unfulfilling and frequently painful! Men are just a pain in the arse.

              Every time one of my female friends admits to no longer wanting men in their life, it is the same old comments. We aren’t super models just average looking. But there is absolutely no call for those sort of insults

              1. CD001

                Re: @ Scorchio!!.

                <q>How dare you accuse me of stereotyping when ...

                Men are just a pain in the arse.</q>

                Yeah ...

              2. Clare (web specialist)
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                And another thing!

                Just because you and your male friends sit around swilling port talking about this sort of thing, does not make your anecdotes my life experience. You might want to have a think about it. At times I have been on a journey with life, but all too often it is your way or the highway!

          3. Minophis

            Re: Re: Re: EASY...

            <quote>It is men like you that have...</quote>

            The posts you're replying to were made as anonymous coward, why do assume they are men?

            1. Clare (web specialist)

              Re: Re: Re: Re: EASY...

              Because it's always men. Every y time.

              1. Anonymous Coward
                Happy

                @Claire

                I think you have misunderstood what Scorchio!! posted. Let me first say that I agree with your original comment, and hope that my remarks don’t cause you any further anger. This is a classic male stereotype comment about why a woman might still be a virgin at 38.

                You should understand that there is a difference between the phrase anecdote, and anecdotal experience. An anecdote being a interesting and possibly humorous description of a real event, whereas anecdotal experience would be direct personal experience. I guess both words have the same derivation. Anyway I think the intention of Scorchio!!’s comment was that just because to date whenever you have had a relationship with a man it has ended badly, you should not assume that this will always happen.

                Just out of curiosity I am assuming from the comments above and a couple of your other posts that you have Sapphic tendencies?

          4. muss

            Re: Re: Re: EASY...

            I am 35 and yet to find a woman who understands what it means to be faithful... I have never cheated not even when I was propositioned while being in a loveless relationship for the last 7 years of my 12 year marriage (we had kids so i stayed until i found out she was cheating)

            I am sorry sweetheart but your gender is worse than mine

  2. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    Wouldn't.

  3. DJO Silver badge

    I've known a few women who "saved themselves" for the bloke they married and in later years every one of them has regretted it. Sometimes not all that long after they married and wondered "is this all there is?"

    Most enjoyable showing them there was a lot more to it indeed.

    1. Aaron Em

      I knew a fellow like you once!

      He used to say that it was no responsibility of his to enforce other people's marriage vows -- of course, this was a while back, before he got shot.

      1. Audrey S. Thackeray

        Re: I knew a fellow like you once!

        What did you shoot him with?

        1. Aaron Em

          Re: Re: I knew a fellow like you once!

          Oh, I never had cause to shoot him with anything; he didn't make a habit of trying for his friends' wives, and, if I may be excused just a bit of bragging, I don't make a habit of giving my wife cause to stray in any case -- of course, considering we live in a rowhouse, our neighbors probably wish I would do.

          Lovely funeral he had; you should've been there. I've never seen a casket with so many flower arrangements around it -- now I think about it, I don't believe I've ever seen so many flower arrangements without cards attached, too.

        2. unitron
          Joke

          Re: Re: I knew a fellow like you once!

          "What did you shoot him with?"

          Malice Aforethought?

          (which is almost as good a band name as Evil Shadow Team)

      2. Daniel 4
        Flame

        Re: I knew a fellow like you once!

        It's so nice to see so many people, especially on a Brit site, upvote enforcing morality with blind rage and a gun.

        In case anyone is wondering, this is why I often feel the bile rise in my throat at the levels of hypocrisy in the El Reg forums.

        Damn gun loving Brits.

        -d, a yank

        1. Aaron Em
          Facepalm

          Re: Re: I knew a fellow like you once!

          Actually, Daniel, it's just that most people on here are unlike you in being able to recognize a joke when they see one. (And I'm a septic myself, actually -- well spotted!)

          1. unitron
            Headmaster

            Re: Re: Re: I knew a fellow like you once!

            "And I'm a septic myself, actually..."

            A septic what?

            Or did you mean aseptic?

            Either way, maybe it's a good time for your annual medical exam.

            1. Anonymous Coward
              Anonymous Coward

              Re: Re: Re: Re: I knew a fellow like you once!

              It's rhyming slang. One of the more convoluted ones

              Septic

              abbrv of Septic Tank

              rhymes with Yank

              abbrv of Yankee

              Generally taken to mean an American

              And, funily enough, is a reference to the 'English'... that's a good one to remember! http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=yankee

        2. Anonymous Coward
          Anonymous Coward

          Re: Re: I knew a fellow like you once!

          If we had more guns here, the Divorce Rate would be nearly Zero!

          as would be the levels of Adultery, The corruption of Govt., Chavs, Car Theives, religious extremists, etc...

          Church Attendance levels would be up as well....

          1. John Hughes
            Happy

            Re: Re: Re: I knew a fellow like you once!

            Acualy the partsof the US with high gun ownership tend to be the parts with lots of religious extremists.

            And also the parts with high divorce rates.

            (Strange that - fundies tend to get divorced *more* than non- fundies).

      3. Anonymous Coward
        Anonymous Coward

        Screwing around: Rule number 1

        Only ever try it out with the girlfriends and wives of big tough looking blokes.

        The big guys punch. The small guys that use guns and knives!

        1. Anonymous Coward
          Anonymous Coward

          Re: Screwing around: Rule number 1

          I believe that paedication, performed by the wronged husband, is a traditional punishment for a male adulterer. (See, for example, the Wikipedia article on "Sexuality in ancient Rome".) That might be an argument for avoiding the wives and girlfriends of a big bloke ... though the small guy might use a cucumber ...

  4. Sir Runcible Spoon

    Sir

    Anyone know anyone pretty enough to choose doing this?

    /cynic

  5. amanfromearth

    "quite successful"

    That's not the same as completely, 100% successful is it?

    1. Ralph B
      WTF?

      Re: "quite successful"

      I guess it means she's a tiny bit of a slapper.

    2. Ru

      Re: "quite successful"

      Ahh, one o' them 'vestigal virgins', I presume.

    3. kwhitefoot
      Coat

      Re: "quite successful"

      It's probably American English where 'quite x' means 'exactly x' as opposed to English usage meaning 'barely x' or 'only just x'. At least that's what I've been told.

      If I were more certain I would have used the grammar Nazi icon.

      1. Galidron
        Thumb Up

        Re: Re: "quite successful"

        That is pretty much it on the head for American usage. Quite can easily be replaced with very unless there is sarcasm involved of course.

      2. Danny 4

        Re: Re: "quite successful"

        Don't know where you're from but in this bit of Blighty quite does mean wholly or completely. I'm pretty it's always had this meaning.

  6. amanfromearth
    Joke

    fake hymens..

    Reminds me of the old joke..

    Guy: "If I knew you were a virgin I'd have taken more time"

    Girl: "If I knew you had more time I'd have taken my tights off"

  7. Some Beggar
    Trollface

    Only 38 years?

    I'm sure half the regular Reg readers can easily beat that.

    1. unitron

      Re: Only 38 years?

      "I'm sure half the regular Reg readers can easily beat that."

      And probably do so on a regular basis.

  8. TeeCee Gold badge
    Pint

    Lemonade.

    When life gives you Lemons, make Lemonade.

    When life gives you 38 years without a shag...........

  9. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    Virginpedia

    The only people really capable of boasting the benefits of celibacy are those that aren't celibate, how can she know which is better?

    1. Just Thinking

      Re: Virginpedia

      Priests, then...

  10. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    For a moment...

    ...I thought she would broadcast the LOSS of her virginity on the site, and then we'd have coverage of all the morality cryout behind it, and cease-desist orders, and forceful takedown of the site, and probably she getting arrested, and whatever. Ok, not a regular Sun copy-paste. Conservative non scandal news for a change. Carry on.

  11. IR

    I'm betting that this is more a case of "Woman with no sex drive assumes everyone is the same as her"

  12. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    I am a true virgin! she proclaims.

    But she has worn out 4,565 vibrators.....

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      like it

      Lowers the tone in the correct way, but where do you get 4,565 from?

      That means 120 a year for 38 years, or 10 a month, or one every three days.

      If they wore out that quick I'd ask for my money back.

      1. unitron
        Joke

        Re: like it

        "That means 120 a year for 38 years, or 10 a month, or one every three days.

        If they wore out that quick I'd ask for my money back."

        Maybe they worked so well she thought she got her money's worth out of them.

        Which brings up another band name:

        Cheap Trick.

        1. Anonymous Coward
          Anonymous Coward

          Re: Re: like it

          Basing that calculation on the full 38 years, is just so wrong on a certain level!

  13. asdf
    FAIL

    right on

    long live those traditional Chinese values. Where starving 50 million people in the "Great" Leap Forward makes you a national hero.

  14. Rob
    Go

    I wonder if...

    ... this is a publicity campaign by the government, they aren't happy about people making babies (well at least not more than one). I reckon the odds are that China definately could be the first nation to impose a license scheme to become a parent.

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      Re: I wonder if...

      It's already happened...In most areas in China (I wont say all cause there's probably a province or two that aren't like this) you need a birthing permit to stop the government from forcing you to have an abortion or fining you more than a years wage.

  15. Shades
    Unhappy

    "benefits of staying celibate"

    Benefits? What benefits? I don't see no benefits. Although, to be fair, my current bout of celibacy has been thrust upon me!

    1. amanfromearth

      Re: "benefits of staying celibate"

      I'd hardly call you celibate if you've been thrust upon..

  16. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    I would argue that abstinence is more harmful

    Sex is a natural human drive. It's good exercise, and it makes you feel better.

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      Re: I would argue that abstinence is more harmful

      Seriously. You don't have to be Wilhelm Reich to think that this kind of self-repression is harmful, unnatural and somewhat ahedonically perverse.

  17. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    How can she give a fair and balanced opinion if she hasn't tried the alternative...

  18. smudge
    WTF?

    Where would she be...?

    ...if everyone followed her example? Specifically her parents.

    1. Aaron Em

      Not saying don't have sex ever

      Just saying don't have it until you're married.

      Odd, I think, that the Chinese government should be so much okay with this, considering all the missionaries the US has been exporting to that country in the last couple of decades, and the (at least rhetorical) importance of chastity to the soi-disant 'traditionalists' who make up the movement producing the missionaries.

  19. Nash
    Thumb Up

    Its her name

    ... thats the problem, read her name quickly......"Too Shy You"

  20. MJI Silver badge
    FAIL

    Most virgins don't want to be

    Reaching 38 years as one is fail.

    Even shy people and geeks can beat that easily and they are not the best people for talking to the opposite sex.

    I was glad to leave it behind.

  21. Field Marshal Von Krakenfart
    Coat

    Am I the only one to read...

    "Shaghai Daily reported that singleton Tu Shiyou from....

  22. Anonymous Coward
    FAIL

    Basic Darwinian principle

    If they don't have sex, they don't pass their stupid genes on. Therefore, we are slowly getting rid of those wackos. I think those freaks are doing us all a favor.

    On the other hand, celibacy helped George Costanza.....

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      Re: Basic Darwinian principle

      Yeah, it's ok to be gay, but not celibate, is that your point?

  23. yeahyeahno
    WTF?

    over 3,000 people reportedly took part in an online poll

    wow, over 3,000 is that all thats needed now to 'SPARKS NET CRAZE'

    A none story.

    1. Aaron Em
      Pint

      Re: over 3,000 people reportedly took part in an online poll

      It's Friday -- what were you expecting?

  24. Blubster
    Coat

    How.....

    Do we know this woman is still a virgin because she's got Ed Zachary disease? i.e. Her face is Ed Zachary like her arse.

    No photos to check?

  25. Andus McCoatover
    Windows

    What's the big deal?

    A shag's a shag. If both enjoy it, what's the harm? Not *quite* like Boy George's "...rather have a nice cup of tea". (But nowadays, I think I would..but not with George, unless he keeps his community service donkey-jacket and trousers on)

    It seems that those who are proud to abstain from something (alcohol, nicotine, drugs, Mrs-Palm-and-her-5-daughters) are usually gagging for it.

    Dear God, is she hoping to be the Pope's wife, or something?

  26. Dana W
    Meh

    Virginity is a correctable perversity of no great interest.

    --- Lazarus Long ---

  27. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    no problem had

    loadsa oral and an-al

  28. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    Old joke to reassure those that might be overly-concerned

    "A dog's legs only need to be long enough to reach the ground."

    This is for Mr. Toews in case he's reading:

    For the record, no problem here.

  29. Sarah Davis
    Coat

    phhht

    clearly this poor woman is doing life wrongly !... on the other hand, if she think virginity is something to aspire to then at least she's terminating her own family line and guaranteeing a well earned Darwin award

    also,..

    surely drinking a bucket of ugly every day could achieve lifetime virginity,.. if anyone was stupid enough to think this an achivevment

  30. JustWondering

    Virginity website

    Is there nothing that can be done about this madness?

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  31. Anonymous Coward
    Thumb Up

    Good for her

    I think all women that don't actively seek/enjoy sex should abstain their whole lives.

    The sooner we breed that out of them the better!

  32. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    Bigotry by any other name~

    I'm rather surprised at the ammount of negative sentiment about her efforts that are pouring out here. All you'd have to do is change the fact from "Celibate" to "Lesbian" and quite a lot of folk here would be breaking anti-discrimination laws.

    Sexual preference is still sexual preference, whether the answer is "No" or "Yes, with balloons and apple sauce".

    As an aside, there is an increasingly expanding movement among Asians, Koreans and Japanese being better documented, of populations simply losing interest in the opposite gender, albeit not being particularly vocal about it. Good on her for standing up for her minority.

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      What a ludicrous bit of rhetoric.

      "All you'd have to do is change the non-discriminatory statements people have made here into discriminatory ones, and quite a lot of folk here would be discriminating".

      Thanks for that sparkling little gem of logical deduction, Captain Obvious-Yet-Irrelevant-Truism.

      1. Anonymous Coward
        Anonymous Coward

        Re: What a ludicrous bit of rhetoric. : Dignified Typing!

        (1st ac)

        Fair enough, I deserved that for less than eloquent framing.

        How then would you put it? If all this is not voicing discrimination based on lifestyle choice (specifically, undermining it's claim to legitimacy), what is it?

        AC #3 was close, though you could probably find most of the arguments made in late 1800s temperance and suppression of vice pamphlets, with directly opposite conclusions.

    2. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      Re: Bigotry by any other name~

      First off... she is the one promoting a choice. My friends aren't going around extolling the virtues of being gay, they're more concerned with being treated equally under the law.

      Abstinence is a choice and she's publicly pushing that choice. Therefore, she sets herself up to be countered on the merits of her argument which really revolve certain cultural/religious fascinations with the 'purity' of females. Gays don't decide become social pariahs, they're born that way. There may be bigoted comments to the fact that she's female, but making fun of her core argument is not bigotry.

      While I have no problem with someone choosing to be abstinent, for most people, it's not a mentally healthy choice over the long term. While some of the fringe smart people I met in the honors college where I went to school may have actually been a-sexual, isolating oneself from intimate relationships is pretty extreme.

      As far as the ugly comments, China has vastly more men than women due to the killing of infant girls, so she'd be able to get someone regardless of her appearance. I'd more likely believe that a woman was wanting a less chauvenistic companion as a reason for being celibate. A lot of chinese men don't want a woman that superior to them in some way. Not that different than a lot of other cultures, but it's still there.

  33. Grikath
    Alien

    even more worrying is...

    That in China in general there is a rather profound shortage of women to begin with, *because* of those traditional values, and the art of modern medicine.

    And yet this woman has managed to hit 38 without.....

    The mind boggles..

  34. CmdrX3
    Childcatcher

    I'm not surprised she's managed to stay a virgin, she's a fecking moose

  35. Antoine Dubuc
    FAIL

    Not Healthy

    Not getting laid regularly is medically speaking, physically and mentally, not healthy.

    Ergo, She's Nuts!. Case closed.

  36. DanceMan
    Boffin

    Context

    Two facts to put this in context:

    A survey that I read, possibly in our local Asian Pacific Post, showed that women in the Asian nations reported lower satisfaction levels in sex than those in Europe or the Americas.

    News reports have described an increased interest in sex among the younger Chinese. The older generations were subject to decades of official prudishness and repression of sexuality.

    That said, her attitude, in the face of no actual experience, smacks of religious-type belief rather than an intelligent knowledge based choice.

  37. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    IT angle?

    Does she have a vagputer?

  38. unitron
    IT Angle

    So a virgin website...

    ...isn't just one without any html written for it yet?

  39. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    ... self-styled “Virgin Goddess”?

    Does she by any chance happen to have a son?

  40. PipzUK
    Happy

    " I am quite successful in keeping my virginity" - the word "quite" is interesting - "quite" is very different to "wholly" - it's like being a "bit" pregnant!!!

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