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Chinese woman sparks net craze with virgin website
A 38-year-old virgin has become the talk of the web in China this week after she set up a site devoted to her near four decades of abstinence - and urged the nation’s youth to join her in saying no to hanky-panky before marriage. Shanghai Daily reported that singleton Tu Shiyou from Hubei Province set up the “virginity website …
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Monday 20th February 2012 12:00 GMT Clare (web specialist)
@ Scorchio!!.
Your accusation that I am stereotyping men makes me far angrier than the original stereotype. It is not a stereotype that would make me prefer my relationships with women it has been my consistent experience, and on top of that I have some good friends who are men. I work in a male dominated environment and every day consists or trying to prove that I am as good as them. I have no desire to carry on that struggle at home.
How dare you accuse me of stereotyping when I was, validly objecting to a classic male stereotype. What do you mean anecdotal when this has been my experience? Every time I get involved it has been a total disappointment, unfulfilling and frequently painful! Men are just a pain in the arse.
Every time one of my female friends admits to no longer wanting men in their life, it is the same old comments. We aren’t super models just average looking. But there is absolutely no call for those sort of insults
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Monday 20th February 2012 12:26 GMT Clare (web specialist)
And another thing!
Just because you and your male friends sit around swilling port talking about this sort of thing, does not make your anecdotes my life experience. You might want to have a think about it. At times I have been on a journey with life, but all too often it is your way or the highway!
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Monday 20th February 2012 14:28 GMT Anonymous Coward
@Claire
I think you have misunderstood what Scorchio!! posted. Let me first say that I agree with your original comment, and hope that my remarks don’t cause you any further anger. This is a classic male stereotype comment about why a woman might still be a virgin at 38.
You should understand that there is a difference between the phrase anecdote, and anecdotal experience. An anecdote being a interesting and possibly humorous description of a real event, whereas anecdotal experience would be direct personal experience. I guess both words have the same derivation. Anyway I think the intention of Scorchio!!’s comment was that just because to date whenever you have had a relationship with a man it has ended badly, you should not assume that this will always happen.
Just out of curiosity I am assuming from the comments above and a couple of your other posts that you have Sapphic tendencies?
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Tuesday 28th February 2012 10:33 GMT muss
Re: Re: Re: EASY...
I am 35 and yet to find a woman who understands what it means to be faithful... I have never cheated not even when I was propositioned while being in a loveless relationship for the last 7 years of my 12 year marriage (we had kids so i stayed until i found out she was cheating)
I am sorry sweetheart but your gender is worse than mine
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Friday 17th February 2012 16:58 GMT Aaron Em
Re: Re: I knew a fellow like you once!
Oh, I never had cause to shoot him with anything; he didn't make a habit of trying for his friends' wives, and, if I may be excused just a bit of bragging, I don't make a habit of giving my wife cause to stray in any case -- of course, considering we live in a rowhouse, our neighbors probably wish I would do.
Lovely funeral he had; you should've been there. I've never seen a casket with so many flower arrangements around it -- now I think about it, I don't believe I've ever seen so many flower arrangements without cards attached, too.
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Friday 17th February 2012 21:50 GMT Daniel 4
Re: I knew a fellow like you once!
It's so nice to see so many people, especially on a Brit site, upvote enforcing morality with blind rage and a gun.
In case anyone is wondering, this is why I often feel the bile rise in my throat at the levels of hypocrisy in the El Reg forums.
Damn gun loving Brits.
-d, a yank
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Sunday 19th February 2012 12:06 GMT Anonymous Coward
Re: Re: Re: Re: I knew a fellow like you once!
It's rhyming slang. One of the more convoluted ones
Septic
abbrv of Septic Tank
rhymes with Yank
abbrv of Yankee
Generally taken to mean an American
And, funily enough, is a reference to the 'English'... that's a good one to remember! http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=yankee
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Monday 20th February 2012 09:55 GMT Anonymous Coward
Re: Screwing around: Rule number 1
I believe that paedication, performed by the wronged husband, is a traditional punishment for a male adulterer. (See, for example, the Wikipedia article on "Sexuality in ancient Rome".) That might be an argument for avoiding the wives and girlfriends of a big bloke ... though the small guy might use a cucumber ...
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Friday 17th February 2012 16:16 GMT Anonymous Coward
For a moment...
...I thought she would broadcast the LOSS of her virginity on the site, and then we'd have coverage of all the morality cryout behind it, and cease-desist orders, and forceful takedown of the site, and probably she getting arrested, and whatever. Ok, not a regular Sun copy-paste. Conservative non scandal news for a change. Carry on.
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Friday 17th February 2012 17:04 GMT Aaron Em
Not saying don't have sex ever
Just saying don't have it until you're married.
Odd, I think, that the Chinese government should be so much okay with this, considering all the missionaries the US has been exporting to that country in the last couple of decades, and the (at least rhetorical) importance of chastity to the soi-disant 'traditionalists' who make up the movement producing the missionaries.
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Friday 17th February 2012 18:14 GMT Andus McCoatover
What's the big deal?
A shag's a shag. If both enjoy it, what's the harm? Not *quite* like Boy George's "...rather have a nice cup of tea". (But nowadays, I think I would..but not with George, unless he keeps his community service donkey-jacket and trousers on)
It seems that those who are proud to abstain from something (alcohol, nicotine, drugs, Mrs-Palm-and-her-5-daughters) are usually gagging for it.
Dear God, is she hoping to be the Pope's wife, or something?
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Saturday 18th February 2012 00:43 GMT Sarah Davis
phhht
clearly this poor woman is doing life wrongly !... on the other hand, if she think virginity is something to aspire to then at least she's terminating her own family line and guaranteeing a well earned Darwin award
also,..
surely drinking a bucket of ugly every day could achieve lifetime virginity,.. if anyone was stupid enough to think this an achivevment
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Saturday 18th February 2012 10:30 GMT Anonymous Coward
Bigotry by any other name~
I'm rather surprised at the ammount of negative sentiment about her efforts that are pouring out here. All you'd have to do is change the fact from "Celibate" to "Lesbian" and quite a lot of folk here would be breaking anti-discrimination laws.
Sexual preference is still sexual preference, whether the answer is "No" or "Yes, with balloons and apple sauce".
As an aside, there is an increasingly expanding movement among Asians, Koreans and Japanese being better documented, of populations simply losing interest in the opposite gender, albeit not being particularly vocal about it. Good on her for standing up for her minority.
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Saturday 18th February 2012 15:12 GMT Anonymous Coward
What a ludicrous bit of rhetoric.
"All you'd have to do is change the non-discriminatory statements people have made here into discriminatory ones, and quite a lot of folk here would be discriminating".
Thanks for that sparkling little gem of logical deduction, Captain Obvious-Yet-Irrelevant-Truism.
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Monday 20th February 2012 22:31 GMT Anonymous Coward
Re: What a ludicrous bit of rhetoric. : Dignified Typing!
(1st ac)
Fair enough, I deserved that for less than eloquent framing.
How then would you put it? If all this is not voicing discrimination based on lifestyle choice (specifically, undermining it's claim to legitimacy), what is it?
AC #3 was close, though you could probably find most of the arguments made in late 1800s temperance and suppression of vice pamphlets, with directly opposite conclusions.
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Monday 20th February 2012 12:24 GMT Anonymous Coward
Re: Bigotry by any other name~
First off... she is the one promoting a choice. My friends aren't going around extolling the virtues of being gay, they're more concerned with being treated equally under the law.
Abstinence is a choice and she's publicly pushing that choice. Therefore, she sets herself up to be countered on the merits of her argument which really revolve certain cultural/religious fascinations with the 'purity' of females. Gays don't decide become social pariahs, they're born that way. There may be bigoted comments to the fact that she's female, but making fun of her core argument is not bigotry.
While I have no problem with someone choosing to be abstinent, for most people, it's not a mentally healthy choice over the long term. While some of the fringe smart people I met in the honors college where I went to school may have actually been a-sexual, isolating oneself from intimate relationships is pretty extreme.
As far as the ugly comments, China has vastly more men than women due to the killing of infant girls, so she'd be able to get someone regardless of her appearance. I'd more likely believe that a woman was wanting a less chauvenistic companion as a reason for being celibate. A lot of chinese men don't want a woman that superior to them in some way. Not that different than a lot of other cultures, but it's still there.
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Saturday 18th February 2012 18:43 GMT DanceMan
Context
Two facts to put this in context:
A survey that I read, possibly in our local Asian Pacific Post, showed that women in the Asian nations reported lower satisfaction levels in sex than those in Europe or the Americas.
News reports have described an increased interest in sex among the younger Chinese. The older generations were subject to decades of official prudishness and repression of sexuality.
That said, her attitude, in the face of no actual experience, smacks of religious-type belief rather than an intelligent knowledge based choice.