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Mumsnet founder Justine Roberts piled back into the net-nannying debate yesterday, calling on ISPs to do more to guard their youngest customers while confirming that many of her readers are themselves avid smut fans. Roberts, who was slated earlier this year for supporting Tory plans for ISPs to impose wider blocks on content …

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    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      Please don't..

      Just don't call yourself a techie please? It waters down the experience for everyone when fuckwits that can't read beyond the end of a search term input box pretend to be tech savvy.

      As it happens, I'm a parent too, I restrict what my kids see on the internet in a very simple way, I sit with the youngest when he wants to use the PC and the PC is in the living room so anything they might 'stumble' across by 'accident' is in view.

      Uncontrollable crying always has a cause, it's far kinder to actually spend the time working out what's causing the problem than abusing a child in the hopes that they'll give up crying when they realise it's not working.

    2. Captain Underpants

      @James Hughes 1: What if that's the appropriate response?

      Heh, unpleasant commentards are the only suitable response to someone acting on the basis of unearned authority staking a claim to an informed opinion in an area where she is utterly unqualified.

      Given its scope, I have to assume that Mumsnet has a range of poster types, from the hand-wringing numpties who want everyone else to be responsible for making the world kiddie friendly through to practical parents who take upon themselves the responsibility for educating and raising their children.

      "Official" Mumsnet spokespeople (ie the founder of the site, who isn't actually a professional in the fields of either internet content dissemination, childcare or child psychology) are no different to anyone else, but by virtue of the volume of the site's users their own personal views are given an undeserved weight (ie the assumption is "Oh, so and so is from Mumsnet, therefore everyone on mumsnet must agree with what she's saying, so millions of people think the same thing....wow, that's a compelling reason to do what she's suggesting"). When actually, what she's saying boils down to "Yes, regulation might be passing the buck, but ISPs should still be liable so that if My Jimmy sees wangs on the internet I can blame someone else."

      She's also saying, in effect, "Neither I nor anyone who agrees with me have read the contracts that we signed with our service provider when we signed up for the service, specifically the parts concerning responsibility for granting access to the service", and "I haven't bothered contacting my service provider to ask what tools are available to help me ensure my children only see suitable content, nor have I read through any of the emails or documentation they have provided" and "I know that if I let my kids watch TV before the watershed it's unlikely they'll see anything that I consider particularly shocking, and may well have wrongly assumed that internet access works the same way".

      None of these things are compatible with the idea of responsible parenting, and so the response that has materialised here takes form.

  1. Anonymous Coward
    Paris Hilton

    Hot housewife action???

    I'd suggest you go the MN's forum and read a select few 'Am I being unreasonable' posts.

    I can guarantee any with to have to 'housewife action' will soon have their ardour dampened.

    mumsnet - where harpies go to, well, harp.

  2. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    The Internet is a place for adults.

    I'm sorry that's all there is to it. Filtering stuff that is illegal at source is often justifiable. The rest of it is up to parents to sort out.

  3. Anonymous Coward
    Happy

    As a certain musical would have it...

    The Internet is for Porn!

  4. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    It's blatantly obvious

    that any mechanism that can be implimented will immediately be bypassed by 14 year old boys in their bedroom on a PC that their parents think is 'safe'.

    The knowledge of how to (offshore VPN a connection) will immediately be shared and passed around to lots and lots of other 14 year old and younger and the whole mechanism will be rendered redundant withing 2 weeks.

    The only people left being filtered will be the parents, who should have known better in the first place

    I'd suggest contracting a VPN in the Ukraine, or using Tor

    People who think this kind of filtering is a good idea are damning themselves to having to learn about stuff they've got no hope of understanding if they think they can stop little Johnny from looking at porn with ISP filtering

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      Yeah,

      reminds me of how throughout the last few decades (at least) there have been vast no.s of parents (apparently) who don't believe kids swear or hear swearing until some reprehensible adult lets the cat out of the bag. As opposed to, say, in the first few weeks in the playground at the Infant school. And though now I only vaguely recall those days congregating by the climbing frame establishing one another's credentials as a little proto adult, I certainly don't recall seeing other kids in the near distance holding their hands over their ears and going "La la la!" Or the headmistress - 'Mrs Frankenstein' - interrogating us because some kid's parents complained to her that little Johnny (thereafter none as 'Rubber' Johnny) repeated a filthy word he'd heard from some naughty boys the day before.

      1. John Smith 19 Gold badge
        Happy

        @Speckled Fleeby Doo

        "eminds me of how throughout the last few decades (at least) there have been vast no.s of parents (apparently) who don't believe kids swear or hear swearing until some reprehensible adult lets the cat out of the bag. "

        Yes it's amazing how the quality of childrens language has improved over the last few decades.

        in HS I don't think a day went by when someone wasn't a c**t to someone else and most of them were evil little m*********ers a lot of the time.

        Good to know some bad language is a thing of the past.

        Now where did I put that super glue remover to get my tongue moving again.

  5. Anonymous Coward
    Pint

    Piss off!

    I have taken my kids to galleries and they snigger a bit when they see a nude statue or portrait but we simply go "Yeah, yeah they haven't got clothes, we all look the same in the shower. Very funny.". Same when my kids see underwear ads, we get 10 secs of "They're in their pants!", then it's done and we all grow up. I can probably assume they a very large percentage of other parents it's much the same, it's the way you teach kids to grow up. You introduce things very gradually, have a laugh about it and so each time it's less embarassing than the last time you saw it.

    Despite what this self-important "yummy-mummy" thinks, we don't all sit our kids down in front of the PC and show them "www,doing-it-with-donkeys.com" as way of teaching them facts of life! FFS! Most of us are quite capable of knowing what is and is not suitable for our kids and we know when they're ready for the next stage of life. We also have the intelligence to try take precautions to ensure they don't get a face full of "60 Plus" when they least expect it.

    I know that some parents don't know when it's too much, like the assistant nurse I met in hospital thought it was hilarious that her 4 year old could shout "fuck" a lot, but why do the rest of us have to have our lives dictated to because a few morons don't have a f**king clue how to bring up their kids.

    George Carlin said, "Save the children, save the children! Fuck the children, they're getting way too much attention! Hats for cycling, baseball, skateboarding sooner or later they're going to need hats to jerk off! You can't save 'em all, some unfortunate ones are going to slip through the net, that's a sad fact of life and natural selection."

    1. Rattus Rattus

      re: "hats to jerk off"

      No, no, you need a helmet for that. With chin strap and reinforced mouthguard.

      (with thanks to Henry Rollins)

  6. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    Why does anyone ever listen

    to parents who claim they are incapable of looking after their kids properly?

    Surely being so incompetent that they can't control what their kids do should disqualify them from having an opinion on the subject.

    1. Am

      Actually, maybe they should be paid more attention to

      Especially by the various child protection agencies around the world - after all, they are publically declaring they cannot look after their children...although that probably wouldn't result in the parents getting a visit from the authorities asking pointed questions about their claims.

  7. g e
    Flame

    Dear mumsnet

    Why don't you hire some application developers to create a mumsnetguard tool to install on windows/linux/mac machines so that it can filter according to mumsnet rules and protect the pc user (from themselves, presumably).

    Or, you could pay a hardware company to develop custom mumsnet firmware for their adsl router that has a mumsnetguard option built in and enabled by default, thus protecting the whole network at connection source.

    Or, just maybe, you already looked into all this and shat yourselves when you saw how much it would cost and decided it was far cheaper and there was more media inches to be gleaned from whinging like a bunch of ineffectual attention-seeking bastards who want to delegate all responsibility for parenting away from actual parents.

    So, in summary....

    GET A CLUE OR FUCK OFF

    Tards.

  8. Alan Brown Silver badge
    Flame

    As an ISP....

    (long time ago)

    I used to tell people "The internet has some of the deepest darkest recessess of humanity on it. Filters often don't work and kids usually see them as a challenge to be bypassed. If you want to make sure they're safe, don't let them use the 'net unsupervised"

    1. Red Bren
      Alien

      Surely you mean...

      The Internet. You will never find a more wretched hive of scum and villainy. We must be cautious...

      1. John Smith 19 Gold badge
        Happy

        @Red Bren

        "The Internet. You will never find a more wretched hive of scum and villainy. We must be cautious..."

        True.

        And it's bad side is worse.

  9. doperative
    Alien

    regulators to come up with a solution?

    "I think the regulators should put pressure on the people involved, the ISPs to come up with a solution to this."

    How about OpenDNS configured at the router not on the desktop computer where little johnny knows more than his parents about how to bypass it.

    http://www.opendns.com/familyshield/

    1. Templar
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      The title is required, and must contain letters and/or digits.

      Maybe you should go on mumsnet and post the link to them and simply explain how it can help them.

      Maybe they have to pay for the service they want, but if they are made aware of such things then they might calm down.

  10. Anonymous Coward
    Stop

    Dear mumsnet

    K9 protection.

    It's free, it's simple, it works. What more do you need?

    Oh you DO have to download it and click a few buttons.

    Sorry my mistake. Best go with a costly unamanagble, over comlex solution instead.

  11. Anonymous Coward
    FAIL

    Start censoring their own site first

    mumsnet.com is littered with swear words, all searchable by their little darlings. When did the founders become spokespeople for anyone or anything anyway? I wish the media would stop asking for their worthless opinions.

  12. Anonymous Coward
    Grenade

    Daughter of Mrs Whitehouse, I presume?

    Now that's a scary thought.

  13. Anonymous Coward
    Paris Hilton

    Mumsnet internet security/parental control advice section??

    I may be missing the point...but couldn't Mumsnet have a whole section about how to ensure children don't see stuff on the internet.. I understand Mumsnet is a forum, but would it be that difficult to have some articles, do a deal with some parental control software provider...

    One handy by product of this is that ;-

    1) We don't have flame between 'parents are bad' etc

    2) The phrase "wont somebody do something" (but we dont know what so "regulate"), no longer applies.

    3) Perhaps given a shinning example of how to help yourself, others may be more amenable to the mumsnet point of view.

  14. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    ISPs are responsible?

    What? I can understand "software makers are responsible" and "web site makers are responsible" and possible "os makers are responsible" but wtf have the ISPs got to do with it?

    Of course, the parents are the only ones who should be responsible for what their children see. Mumsnet is very useful, but if it thinks it can tell me what's right and wrong it can fuck off.

    Nice precedent though. I'd like to sue the post office for my junk mail...

  15. Anonymous Coward
    FAIL

    Oh the irony...

    ...I'm guessing from the article that some mumsnet users have used the forum to attack the parents of Madeleine McCann for not supervising their child. I really hope these aren't the same parents that can't even be arsed to supervise their own children's Net use.

  16. Kay Burley ate my hamster
    FAIL

    Stop using the Internet as a babysitter

    It's not Cbeebies!

    1. John Smith 19 Gold badge
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      @Kay Burley ate my hamster

      "It's not Cbeebies!"

      Nice.

    2. Chika
      Mushroom

      It's not CBeebies...

      Nope. It's SeeBoobies!

  17. Anonymous Coward
    Anonymous Coward

    *sigh*

    If I'm not mistaken; there's something that helps protect children from the "horrors of pornography."

    It's called PARENTING.

  18. Lamont Cranston

    My son is 4

    and I do sometimes leave him unsupervised online. However, I am well aware of a) what is on the internet and b) his level of computer literacy, such that whilst I may leave him alone perusing CBeebies, I watch him like a hawk on YouTube.

    It is a fact that computers are everywhere (Martha Lane Fox exists to make sure we all get online) but many people know very little about them, so I have no problem with tools being made available that could help parents regulate what their children will see online (something as simple as the 9pm watershed wouldn't work here), and ISPs are probably best placed to deliver such tools. But they must be opt in, and that is the responsibility of parents (TV doesn't turn itself off a 9 on the off chance that someone unsuitable might be watching).

    None of this is difficult, nor should it be controversial.

    1. John Smith 19 Gold badge
      Happy

      @Lamont Cranston

      "But they must be opt in, and that is the responsibility of parents (TV doesn't turn itself off a 9 on the off chance that someone unsuitable might be watching).

      None of this is difficult, nor should it be controversial."

      Agreed. Nor is it.

      However that is *not* what is being advocated.

      Remember the Tory MP who said one of the major ISP's (Carphone warehouse IIRC) did a survey and 89% of parent thought were worried about their children seeing "inappropriate" content but not enough to actually *do* something about it?

      The sort who will say "I'm very worried..." But not enough to actually type in "Microsoft parental controls" into a search engine and IDK clinck on a few links.

      The actual issue is how far should legislation should control personal behavior.

      I think it's fair to say most people posting here feel that what is being requested by a *vocal* minority is a *lot* more than what most people want or would accept.

      1. Lamont Cranston

        Ugh.

        Maybe we should license computer ownership? Most people I support would have to go without, though!

  19. Digibull
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    Trekkie sang it best...

    In Avenue Q: #The Internet is for Porn!#

    1. Marcus Aurelius
      Go

      Helpful linkies

      Just in case you're one of the few people who don't know what Digibull is on about, allow me to elucidate:

      AvenueQ: http://youtu.be/T-TA57L0kuc

      World of Warcraft version: http://youtu.be/zUF0t8n6Y6A

  20. Anonymous Coward
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    Just more evidence of the wider problems

    Sorry but this touches a nerve with me and hence this'll be a bit of a rant in places.

    Personally, I feel that the only legislation required here is one which makes parents be responsible and accountable.

    You don't need technology for this*, just (un)common sense. Put the computer where you can see it.

    It really does feel like we're breeding generation after generation of mindless idiot drones who understand absolutely nothing about personal responsibility (warning: contents may be hot on a McDonald's cup of tea or coffee...well it f*cking ought to be otherwise, why would I have bought it springs to mind as an example).

    Isn't it just another brick in the wall of a complete breakdown of society?

    Like these parents that say things like "My little Tommy is a good lad/is uncontrollable" (delete as appropriate)...what a load of garbage - YOU are the adult and YOU are the parent. Make time for them, give them the attention kids deserve and need, help them be a kid for as long as possible (you're a long time as an adult if you're lucky) and BE ACCOUNTABLE. Children turn out the way they do because of how they're brought up, not because of the state or because someone (be it an ISP or a video game producer or the government etc) "lets them down" and/or "corrupts their minds".

    If little Tommy starts breaking and entering at age 12, then take a two-pronged approach. One - the time they should serve simply accrues until they hit 16 and they do it all concurrently. Two - the parents should be made accountable and if necessary, punished. I bet it wouldn't take long before they started to make their kids behave a bit better?

    My eldest son is 9 soon. He can't add friends to his XBox without my password (he doesn't know it).

    He can't use a computer unless it's where I or his mum can see it.

    He isn't out wandering the streets at 10pm.

    We spend time together - walks, the park playing football, board games etc as a family.

    It ain't fecking rocket science, just (un)common sense.

    Sorry but these self-proclaimed "experts" (in what, exactly? What're your qualifications in this particular field, Justine? You founded a website for mums...wow) and people who pass the buck really get up my nose. If you're a parent, then in terms of your child's behaviour and well-being, the buck stops with you.

    *Yes I realise there is technology available and K9 web protection is great for this, BUT it doesn't need to be used.

    </end rant>

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      *claps*

      I agree with much of what you say apart from the breaking and entering thing.

      Having lived on a council estate in the dim distant past I can promise you the threat of future action does not matter one jot to a 12,13,14,15,16 year old scrote. It's not happening 'now' so it doesn't exist as far as they are concerned and if they're going to prison for 6 months then there's no incentive for them to stop breaking the law, their future is already set so might as well have a few lols eh?

      Similarly punishing the parent has diminishing returns, you're not punishing people who were brought up with 'normal' values, you're punishing people who were proto 'Tommys'. It might work in a few cases but I'm pretty sure I know the reaction of most of the problem parents.

  21. illiad

    no, no, no!!! this old thing again...

    the whole thing about stopping child access to porn, is rather hopeless...

    A 5 year old kid these days usually has far more computer knowledge than the average adult, and can run rings around any 'prevention' put in place, and even if they do not know why, they will see it as a challenge to get into the 'forbidden fruit'...

    It is far simpler to teach morality and respect to your children at an early age, so they know why it is not nice to smoke & drink too much, and all the other evils that exist outside in the real world..

    And teach them properly about love and respect for the beautiful thing that is men & women...

    You would be surprised how well they accept this, all they want is plain facts... then they will leave it alone..

  22. mittfh
    FAIL

    Parental Controls?

    Don't make me laugh. The kind of parents who are worried about their children accessing undesirable content and demanding technology solutions are probably those that leave their children to browse the internet unsupervised. Many of those parents probably have a limited knowledge of technology, so would set the Parental Controls password to something simple like their car registration number or date of birth.

    Several years ago, I was a school IT technician. Despite a combination of county-wide and school-wide filters, it was still possible for some pupils (oddly enough, quite often in the "Alternative Curriculum" group for whom a full GCSE course was considered too demanding) to access material that they shouldn't. Web games such as Line Rider and The Adrenaline Challenge (some kind of BMX platform game - IMHO more like Watching Paint Dry Challenge) were endlessly popular, and available on an almost endless variety of websites so as soon as you blocked one, the next day the grapevine would have given everyone another half dozen URLs to try. Another popular activity was finding unblocked online proxies, so they could access Bebo or Meebo.

    If they can do that at school, what's the betting they'll easily be able to evade parental controls at home?

  23. SteelVenom
    Paris Hilton

    Rebecca black Parody

    Gotta make my mind up which hand will I use?

    It's Friday, Friday

    Gettin off On friday

    Everybody's lookin forward to the porn fest, porn fest

    Paris because...well that should be obvious.

  24. Anonymous Coward
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    "Concerned parents" are the worst kind

    Someone who is enough of a "concerned parent" to be this deeply involved in censorship discussions (at a national level, no less) should have realized by now that the best, most reliable way to protect your young'uns from objectionable internet content is to take responsibility for it yourself instead of expecting society at large to do the parenting for you because you're too busy posting to a parenting forum and going on moral "think of the children" crusades to actually be a parent.

  25. John I'm only dancing

    They have the answer

    All these mumsnet posters are so busy writing on their forum that the kids don't have access to the wonderweb.

  26. Alex Walsh

    I wonder

    which netfiltering tool is going to be the officially endorsed net filter of Mumnet, netting them a hefty sponsorship deal?

    Oooh, I'm an old cynic...

  27. illiad

    the original from 2006 World OF Warcraft..

    http://www.gametrailers.com/user-movie/the-internet-is-for-porn/1299

    1. Anonymous Coward
      Anonymous Coward

      Original?

      You disgust me sir, the original is from Avenue Q - shame on you!, shame!

  28. maff
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    Justine Roberts

    Apparently this woman has four children. The only content blocking needed here is around her vagina.

  29. John Smith 19 Gold badge
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    "I agree that this woman from Mumsnet has as much right to her opinion as everyone else, "

    But in a fair society *no* more.

    That is all.

  30. John Smith 19 Gold badge
    Joke

    K9 protection?

    You mean it only block zoo p()rn?

  31. JaitcH
    WTF?

    The UK government needs a single, coherent policy

    My understanding is that UK law holds that websites that host chatrooms, such as this, are not responsible for content UNLESS they actively edit content.

    Then people want ISPs, etc. to get in the business of moderating websites their users access, which, IMO, puts their heads in line for potential legal action.

    On the other hand telco's are completely free of these encumbrances if their users plan so called acts of terrorism or just a simple break and enter.

    Both classes of entity are 'common carriers'. Maybe the government could hold electricity supply companies responsible for supplying electricity to a indoor marijuana growing operation?

  32. E 2

    I fail to see the point

    Qua porn the horse already left the barn. Also, what exactly is wrong with sex anyway?

  33. Anonymous Coward
    Happy

    the only good porn

    is well, all of it; just some it better than others you know.

  34. Arbuthnot Darjeeling
    Paris Hilton

    should it be

    MILFnet

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