I am a genius so shut your face and listen.
One one side of the fents is the lunatic religious saying that a dickless man went into low earth orbit, that sex is bad, dirty and nasty and your should save it for the one you love and that masturbation is bad, children born out of religious ceremonies are bastards and single mothers ought to be ashamed of THEMSELVES...
Shame, Shame, Shame - guilt, guilt, guilt, masturbation makes you go blind and we will invent all this silly puritanical bullshit so that NOT having sex makes you pure and having sex makes you sinful....
So side A is anally retentative.
Then on the other hand you get all the crazies who act out all the mad shit that was done to them and their society by Team A and their "morals"....
And it's all crazy.
My scope on the sex online is that some of it is useful in identifying issues, some of it is useful in terms of sexual education, and some of it is exciting and some of it is just really screwed up people acting out what was done to them in their families in direct and in direct "reflections" of the abuse and neglect.
And some of it is just really good "lets fuck like animals" sex...
But my main issue is not that sex is a moral issue, or right or wrong or this type of sex is good and that type of sex is bad etc...
My main focus is on "Is this really role modeling how to have healthy relationships - starting with yourself, and you inner circle of family friends and acquaintances and strangers..."
A lot of online sex really is unhealthy - in terms of setting a bench mark for others to live by and learn from.
I think a lot of it really is harmful and bad for ones self esteem.
A lot of the porn industry is a manufactured product of sicker and sicker activities, in order to stimulate the audience, in order to generate revenue.....
It's just like sticking more and more booze, coke, heroine or gossip into the scene.
While the argument really does hold true that it's up to the parents, and that the parents should be censoring what their offspring access and or view, the truth is that they don't and can't; and what is more important, many parents are hopeless role models who either have no idea on how to role model relationships with themselves and their partner, and if they don't most of them are trapped in the idea of "You must not go an ask for help" - which is coupled with "And what will people think of us if this gets out - the intergenerational family shame and secrecy - the keeping up appearances".....
It's all bullshit.
You cannot role model what you don't know how to do.
And if you don't know, it's your responsibility to go and find out.
Healthy adults dole model healthy relationships and - they raise sane children who can trust their feelings - and when they kids see the crap relationships being portrayed in most of the sexual goings on on the net, they will generally ask themselves, "How does this make me feel?" and much of it "Feels really crazy - because it is really crazy".
People who have been raised to have healthy relationships, pull away from the madness and those for whom it's all they have ever known embrace it.
I found that this book was a good starting point.
http://www.johnbradshaw.com/bradshawonthefamilybook-1.aspx