Re: AC 1734
I personally don't find the phrases "distressing". I do find it, I guess, "inappropriate trivialisation" might be a suitable phrase. The way that a crime, which I would consider to be one of the most damaging to an individual, can be brought into common language to describe something so inconsequential as having your 1234 Pa55word guessed and a couple of embarassing blog entries made, just makes me agree with the pressure groups who say that the crime itself isn't taken seriously. Agreeing with them isn't something I often do, and is a bit of a change of perspective for me - most of the press releases from (whichever cause) groups make me cringe in embarassment at best.
Hadn't really thought about "killer app" before. Probably because I've had more personal experience with the former - I know a couple of people who have been raped or sexually assaulted, and have seen first-hand what it did to them, which is why this one leaped (leapt?) out at me. Having spent many, many hours with them, seeing previously-outgoing and fun people reduced to paranoid shells of their former selves, it's not the sort of phrase I would ever feel appropriate to use.
I'm sure some people do get over it "very quickly", though I've never seen that sort of recovery first hand. A lot of cases seem to go unreported through one or more of the following, rather than it being "not that big a deal" (as I read your post to indicate can be the case):
* fear of retribution (esp. in ongoing abuse, or where the assaulter is known to the victim)
* fear of not being believed (family, friends, the authorities to whom it's reported)
* humiliation (at the thought of the invasive examination, everyone else's opinion, giving evidence, court case)
* guilt (belief that it was the victim's fault)
Torture & false accusations of extreme porn? Where does the government come into this????